This is honest Christian dating and relationship advice from someone a little further down the road. Whether you’re single and waiting, newly dating and unsure, or somewhere in the complicated middle — these posts are for you. I write as someone who has been married for over a decade, but who remembers vividly what it felt like to wonder if love would ever come, and to navigate the search for it with faith. My hope is that something here brings you both comfort and clarity.

When You’re Single and Waiting

Waiting is hard. These posts are honest about that — and about what God might be doing in the waiting.

On Finding the Right Person

Who you choose matters more than almost any other decision you’ll make, so it’s worth choosing well.

On Vulnerability and Emotional Safety

Real love requires opening up, but it’s meant to be given to people who’ve shown they’ll handle your heart with care.

On Heartbreak and Moving On

Heartbreak is brutal, but it has a way of teaching you things nothing else can.

On Attraction, Temptation, and Purity

What we let our eyes and minds dwell on shapes us more than we’d like to admit.

Common Questions About Christian Dating

Is it wrong to feel impatient while waiting for love?

No. Waiting is genuinely hard, and pretending it isn’t doesn’t help anyone. What’s helped me is trying to let the waiting shape me rather than just endure it — to ask what God might be growing in me instead of only counting the days.

How do I know if someone is the right person?

Start with whether they’re truly pursuing God, because almost everything else flows from that. Beyond that, pay attention to whether your heart feels safe with them. Over time that matters far more than chemistry or a checklist.

How do you get over heartbreak?

Slowly, and without rushing to fill the empty space. Heartbreak has a way of revealing where you’ve been placing your identity, which is painful but useful. Give yourself permission to actually grieve before you try to move on.

Should I guard my heart or be vulnerable?

Both, in the right order. Vulnerability is the only way real intimacy ever happens, but it’s meant to be given to people who have earned it. Wisdom isn’t the same thing as building walls.

I seek to live my life in a way that keeps me joyful and young at heart — and love, in all its beauty and difficulty, has been one of the greatest teachers on that journey.