This is a collection of everything I’ve learned about Christian marriage, written one anniversary at a time. Marriage has been the greatest teacher of my life — not because it’s easy, but because it keeps asking me to become someone better than I was yesterday. What you’ll find here isn’t polished advice from a distant expert. It’s honest, sometimes humbling, first-person reflection from someone still in the middle of it.
Whether you’re newly married, years in and wondering why it’s gotten harder, or somewhere in between — I hope something here meets you where you are.
The Anniversary Series: Year by Year
Every year on our anniversary, I write down what marriage has taught me that year. These posts are the heart of this blog. Read them in order or jump to wherever you are.
- What I’ve Learned in Six Months of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in One Year of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Two Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Three Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Four Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Five Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Six Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Seven Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Eight Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Nine Years of Marriage
- What I’ve Learned in Ten Years of Marriage
On Intimacy and Safety
The best marriages aren’t built on grand gestures — they’re built on a thousand small moments of choosing your spouse. These posts explore what it means to truly let someone in.
- Being Safe to Be Yourself in Marriage
- Keys to Intimacy
- The Importance of Non-Sexual Touch
- Sleeping With My Wife
- It’s Okay to Be the Little Spoon
On Putting Your Spouse First
Selfishness is the quiet enemy of every marriage. These posts are honest confessions and hard-won lessons about choosing “us” over “me.”
- When You Foolishly Choose Me Over Us
- When You Take Your Partner for Granted
- Does Your Wife Fit Into Your Life?
- When Love Starts to Become Conditional
- Do I Fully Trust My Partner?
On the Hard Seasons
Marriage is not always easy, and pretending otherwise helps no one. These posts don’t sugarcoat the difficulty — but they point toward hope.
- Dealing With Each Other’s Idiosyncrasies
- Wandering Eyes and Thoughts
- But Do You Still Love Me?
- Rachel’s Thoughts on Marriage
On Starting a Family
Marriage changes when children enter the picture — in ways that are terrifying, beautiful, and holy all at once.
Common Questions About Christian Marriage
Is marriage supposed to be this hard?
Yes, at times. The hard seasons aren’t a sign you chose wrong — they’re usually the very places the growth happens. Marriage keeps asking me to become someone better than I was, and that’s rarely comfortable in the moment.
What does “putting your spouse first” actually look like?
It looks like a thousand small, unglamorous choices: listening when you’d rather be on your phone, choosing “us” over “me” when no one is watching, saying sorry first. It’s less about grand gestures and more about consistency.
How do you keep God at the center of a marriage?
For us it’s been less about doing big spiritual things together and more about each of us staying close to God on our own, then bringing that home. When I’m growing, I simply have more patience and grace to give her.
Can a marriage recover after you’ve grown distant?
I believe it can. Distance usually creeps in slowly through neglect rather than one big event, and it tends to heal the same slow way it formed — through attention, honesty, and showing up again and again.
I seek to live my life in a way that keeps me joyful and young at heart — and nothing has tested and grown that pursuit more than marriage. I’m glad you’re here.