In Your Relationship, Does Your Heart Feel Safe?

Dating|

I was talking with my friend Tammy the other day and she shared an insight after reflecting on a recent romantic relationship of hers - an insight which I thought was completely profound. And I asked her if I could blog about it, and she said yes. So here I go. Overall, I feel like a lot of people struggle with figuring out whether a person they like, or the ...

The Beauty of Being Vulnerable in Relationships

Courage, Dating, Strength|

Ive been thinking a lot about one of C.S. Lewis's most famous and most profound quotes: “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it ...

Why You Should Choose Someone Who Is Pursuing God

Dating|

So, I mentioned in my last post about girls and standards that I believed a shared faith is so essential, at least to me.  I mentioned that she should be headed in the same spiritual direction as me, and she should earnestly try to live her life with integrity in all areas.  And I think it's a very reasonable standard to have, and one on which I could never compromise.  ...

What Should We Have In Common If We’re Dating?

Dating|

My friend Mo recently mentioned how she wouldn't date a guy who wasn't into the same type of music as her, and so it got me thinking about our standards for the persons we want to date, and/or fall in love with, and/or spend the rest of our lives with.  Sometimes I feel like my standards for a girl are incredibly - no, insanely - high.  And we all know ...

When You Have Wandering Eyes and Thoughts

Dating|

There are beautiful girls everywhere. They are on the treadmills at the gym, they are in the produce section of the grocery store, they are employees where you work or students where you go to school - they are everywhere. But if you are in a relationship - if God blesses you with a relationship, you had better be all about that other person and not have wandering eyes. It ...

Why You Need Confidence in God to Have a Healthy Relationship

Dating|

One of the character traits that stands out about Nehemiah is that he was so secure. And confident. But you can tell that the confidence isn’t in himself – it is in his God. It’s just crazy how his heart broke for Jerusalem, and he prayed hard and fasted and made sure the Lord’s hand was on this idea he had to rebuild the city walls. And from that point, ...

When You’re Struggling While Waiting For Love

Singleness|

I’ve been thinking a lot about boy and girl relationships recently, as most of my single friends are in that place where they want it to happen pretty much right now.  I am probably not in any position to offer advice or guidance, and I definitely do not have a lot of experience, but I still wanted to write out my thoughts about some aspects of it. Obviously, we know ...